ZOOM Link – Men’s Circle

ZOOM Link – Men’s Circle

ZOOM Link: us02web.zoom.us/j/775222845

Wherever you are in the world, I invite you to join us every Monday evening, 7pm-Central Standard Time, for a safe contemplative men’s circle conversation on the overarching theme of compassion.

You will find this to be a safe place to learn how to connect head and heart, a place where there is no judgment and no one is going to call you out or try to fix you. Try us “one time in a row.”

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Ep55: Paul Higdon, Author – Hope and a Future

Ep55: Paul Higdon, Author – Hope and a Future

Paul Higdon, Author – Hope and a Future: Life, Survival, and Renewal on the Streets of an African Slum

I thoroughly enjoyed my 36-year career in international finance. During that time, I had the honor of serving for six years as Chairman of the Board of Trustees of a children’s welfare operation in central Kenya. Based on that work, I was presented a Global Volunteer Award by Bank of America.


Since I retired from my professional banking career, perhaps the most rewarding endeavor has been composing my first book, Hope and a Future: Life, Survival, and Renewal on the Streets of an African Slum, which chronicles the true story of a street boy, John Maina, who lived in the slums of Nairobi. Eventually, John and I became so close that in an African sense, we are now father and son. On its launch in April 2020, the book rose to the rank of #1 Hot New Release among Amazon’s African biographies. In conjunction with its publication, I created a public charity, Little Boost Children’s Fund, whose mission is “Giving vulnerable kids a little boost.” All proceeds from the book go directly to the fund.

I hold academic degrees in philosophy, politics, and economics from Cornell, Oxford, and Johns Hopkins and continue to enjoy a wide range of intellectual pursuits, especially early Christianity, and modern history.

My wife, Linda, is a classical pianist, an award-winning filmmaker, and now runs a tour company offering a unique “Women’s Journey to Kenya.” We are proud parents of two sons—Lars, and his wife, Brei, are environmental scientists, and Nils, is a professional jazz drummer. Linda and I live north of Chicago on the edge of the Kettle Moraine forest in the southern lakes region of Wisconsin. We share our home with five cats, who graciously allow us to serve them.


Ep42: Dr. Karambu Ringera – Kenya

Ep42: Dr. Karambu Ringera – Kenya


“The longest journey I will ever make is the journey to the heart of the person next to me.” – Born and raised in Meru, Kenya, Dr. Ringera earned her Ph.D. in intercultural communication in 2008 from the University of Denver. She earned a Masters Degree in Media from Natal University, South Africa, as well as a Master of Theological Studies (with a peace and justice emphasis) from the Iliff School of Theology in Colorado. She received her Bachelor of Education degree and Postgraduate Diploma in Mass Communication from the University of Nairobi, Kenya. Dr. Ringera is also a lecturer at the University of Nairobi. (cont’d below)

About this podcast: I am in Search of the New Compassionate Male. I am convinced that amidst all the turmoil in the world a New Compassionate Male is emerging, and this New Compassionate Male is emerging as the New Archetype. ~ I am on a journey to every corner of the planet. I am on a journey within; a journey of self discovery to learn what it means to be a compassionate male. ~ I do not have the answer, but I know there is a spark of compassion emerging within every man and within every woman. Regardless of sexual orientation, nationality or religious tradition I invite you to join me. Let’s travel together and find answers to questions like: Who is this man? What makes him compassionate? Is he born this way, or how is compassion learned? Is there a place or time where compassion is not relevant? How many ways does the compassionate male show up in the world Together, we can find him. Together, we can hold a mirror up for one another and find the compassion within ourselves. ~ The more adversity there is in the world, the hotter the ember of compassion burns within. It may be smoldering and unrecognizable at the moment, or burning brightly lighting and warming others. ~ Who is the New Compassionate Male? Join me in our search.

Creator – Clay Boykin
Producer – Dennis Tardan

Follow me on Facebook: In Search of the New Compassionate Male
Twitter: @ccboykin
Write me at: clay@clayboykin.com

Free On Amazon: Circles of Men: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Men’s Groups Compassionate men gather differently. – “With this book, Clay Boykin has created a spiritual blueprint for men around the world. Not only does this book provide a detailed guide for starting and maintaining a men’s group, but it also contains rich insight into the struggles and challenges of being a spiritual male in today’s western culture.” – Review on Amazon

More on Dr. Ringera: Dr. Ringera is a 2016 Cordes Social Entrepreneurs Fellow; a 2015/16 Next Generation Leader Fellow of the McCain Institute for International Leadership, USA; the 2015 Life Achievement Award and 2015 Master Scholar Award winner, University of Denver, USA; and the 2012 African Achievers Award, UK – for her cutting edge work in innovative and sustainable models of development & peace building, women’s human rights and global leadership programs around the world. She has used her extensive academic background and international experience working in many countries to design and implement models of effective community engagement, women’s grassroots organizing programs, collaborative problem solving models, preemptive and post conflict reconciliation, and proactive health campaigns. She has built a successful, working model of “Amani Homes,” community homes of peace for orphans and vulnerable children in Meru, Kenya. Near the Amani home, she has also built Tirigi (“the place of abundance”), a permaculture center that trains people in the community how to develop and sustain successful food sovereignty projects. Tiriji has become a training center for peace and leadership programs. Karambu is a visionary, an activist, a compassionate, committed, formidable force for change, and an inspiration to all who meet her. “I like to think of myself as a peace, healing and reconciliation activist, involved in promoting community based organizing that empowers grassroots people, especially women and children challenged by disease, violence, and poverty. Poverty is not just about lack of money, or absence of violence and disease, rather the greatest suffering in these areas results from lack of access to information, a lack of knowledge and support to successfully utilize and develop local resources to create a better life. My desire is to stand with communities as they learn to listen deeply to the inner knowing of their hearts, identify their needs, craft their own solutions and inspire actions to meet those needs. My role is to support and trust their judgment and promote the implementation of their self-identified solutions. I invite you to stand with me to enable the work of IPI on a path that provides hope and light for all of us.” International Peace Initiatives – https://ipeacei.org

Ep54: Death Throes of Patriarchy w/guest Clay Boykin

Ep54: Death Throes of Patriarchy w/guest Clay Boykin

This may be one of the most important conversations we can have when discussing patriarchy. Does “patriarchy” imply men? Are men wounded by the patriarchy soaked into our cultures? Are women contributing to the patriarchal society? This loaded conversation will be held in a safe and sacred manner, between friends, while inviting all voices to be heard. We will be conducting breakout sessions as well to further your experience.


Special Guest: Clay Boykin believes a New Compassionate Male is emerging in the world as the New Archetype. He is the Founder of the Men’s Fellowship Network: Circles of Men Project, author of the book, Circles of Men: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Creating Men’s Groups, and creator of the podcast, In Search of the New Compassionate Male. Clay is developing the Men & Boys Initiative for Charter for Compassion and works closely with Gender Equity and Reconciliation International  an organization whose focus is on deep healing between women and men. Clay is well known for his servant leadership approach to life. He leads workshops and retreats in the U.S. and Africa, and is presently working on his next book: In Search of the New Compassionate Male.

Sande Hart – Mother, Daughter, Wife, Sister and Aunt, and grandmother. – I serve as Founding Director of the Charter for Compassion Women and Girls sector, Founder and President of the women’s interfaith organization S.A.R.A.H., Past Chair of the United Religions Initiative for North America, and co-Founder of Alchemy Productions. – A certified Compassionate Integrity Trainer, I am passionate about leading people to a new understanding of who they are through the lens of compassion and compassionate action, and the role they contribute to the world around them. With a strong emphasis on personal awareness and self advocacy, I developed the 18th Sustainable Development goal with the intention and expectation that  we will wake up to our personal responsibilities to be stewards of our planet and those we share it with. – With a strong commitment to elevating women and girls by providing dialogue and circle experience, my workshops and productions provide opportunities for weaving relationships, and being in service to the divine feminine that is rising strong in our world right now. – I speak and conduct workshops on a variety of topics relating to community building, women and girls, and kids activism through service. – Paying attention to patterns in community and community building, it became clear that, with some thoughtful adjustments that seem to be easily missed, and some safeguards in how leadership teams work together, we could accelerate and leverage the highest vision and success of any given group.

Ann Smith loves to teach circle facilitation and the New Leadership and Organization based on Circle Principles.  She is teacher/learner, mentor, coach, illuminator of Divine Feminine, advocate for women’s equality and empowerment, author and community organizer.  She speaks from forty-years of experiences where she has listened, observed and learned from women around the world.  She is co-founder and director of Circle Connections, Millionth Circle Convener, Regional Coordinator of Gather The Women Global Matrix, Co-Associate Companion of Happehatchee Chapter of the Society of the Companions of the Holy Cross and SARAH Advisor.   She is married with two daughters, three grandsons and one cat.  She lives next to Everglades  nature preserve in Naples, Florida.

Patricia Fero was born for these times. She is a passionate woman who has dedicated her life to igniting the collective feminine in planetary awakening. Her capacity for clearing her own internalized patriarchy and fierce listening are the magic she brings to every setting. The author of four books, Patricia has shared her wisdom through writing. Her first, Mining for Diamonds shows how people can use adversity to create resiliency. What happens When Women Wake Up? is a roadmap for clearing internalized patriarchy. Her third book, Sacred Marching Orders, describes the new energy of the solar feminine. Marianne Williamson’s endorsement reads: “Women owning our power and using it collaboratively is what our planet desperately needs. Sacred Marching Orders is a call to women to channel our passion into the healing of the world.”

About: S.A.R.A.H. – Spiritual and Religious Alliance for Hope is an organization of women of diverse cultures, faiths and beliefs, is committed to making a positive and meaningful difference in the world by advancing solutions that end all forms of violence disproportionately impacting women and girls. To that end, our aim is to help women recognize self-awareness and personal agency through our programs and initiatives. We focus on cultural and systemic violence, and all of our practices promote circle principles which are rooted in our leading core values. We provide tools and skills to help and support women and girls through scholarship, education, mentoring, and a platform for their wisdom and voices to be heard. Led by an Advisory Council and small volunteer staff, we listen carefully to our network of Sisters around the world. then respond respectfully with creative solutions through technology and in collaboration with others who share our vision.


Ep48-49-50: The Myth Salon

Ep48-49-50: The Myth Salon

The Myth Salon recently hosted Clay Boykin and his producer, Dennis Tardan, who are in search of the new compassionate male. It is no secret that centuries of patriarchy and a skewed sense of masculinity bear much of the responsibility for steering humanity away from the nature and the deep feminine. Male empowerment has formed the foundation upon which our current cultural and political conditions rest. Clay Boykin and Dennis Tardan believe that amidst the turmoil in the world the new compassionate male is emerging as the new archetype. While much of their work may focus on transforming males and the masculine, the core values and principles evoke the relational qualities of the deep feminine. Based in Austin, Texas, they are engaging thought leaders who have developed conversations with enlightened people of all stripes and we are deeply privileged to have had them at The Myth Salon this month to explore this new paradigm.



Clay Boykin is in Search of the New Compassionate Male. His book: Circles of Men: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Creating Men’s Groups, was published in 2018. He has dedicated his next twenty years to making the world a better place by empowering men to cultivate and integrate the divine male and divine female essences within, and live a life centered on compassion and serving the greater good.

Dennis Tardan is an interviewer, communication coach and documentarian. For more than 40 years, Dennis has worked as a television interviewer and documentary producer and corporate communication coach for companies such as Shell, Farmers Insurance, ConocoPhillips, Siemens, Rice University and many others.


Dana White is a graduate of Occidental College and the University of Southern California, Dana White received his PhD in Mythological Studies from Pacifica Graduate Institute in 2003.  His dissertation is titled “Re-Imagining Work: Awakening the Call of Right Livelihood.”  He currently serves as a contributing faculty member at Pacifica and as a reader on numerous doctoral dissertation committees.

David Huff PhD, Mythology and Depth Psychology from the Pacifica Graduate Institute in California. He is an award-winning filmmaker and photographer. His photo “We paid at the pump until there was no more” was a finalist in the inaugural Canon Imagin8tion Project with Ron Howard.


Dennis Patrick Slattery, Ph.D. is core faculty, Mythological Studies at Pacifica Graduate Institute in Carpinteria California. Pacifica’s unique faculty of distinguished scholars and inspired teachers attracts artists, writers, musicians, film-makers, animators, game designers, teachers, psychologists, pastoral counselors, executives, lawyers, and life-long learners who seek to understand and express the depths of the psyche, and whose lives and careers have been substantially enriched—and often radically transformed—by the power of myth.

Seina Matthews, PhD, Clinical Psychology, Pacifica Graduate Institute. Clinical Psychologist specializing in Life Span Issues and Personal Transformation using a psycho/spiritual approach to help people find their authentic self and life purpose. Published “Soul Transformation: Engaging the Invisible Actor Within” 2012, a self-help book for the general population and “The Transformational Power of Voice” 2010, an academic book that contends that voice is the oral expression of soul. Keynote Speaker on Engaging Your Transformational Power!

Will Linn is a Philosopher-Storyteller with a Ph.D. in Mythology and Depth Psychology from Pacifica Graduate Institute. He is the Founding Chair of the General Education Department at Hussian College — a new film and performing arts school named by Variety as a top international film school in 2019 and 2020 — where he teaches courses in myth, story and philosophy. Will participates in documentaries and series as a topic expert on myth and media. “Memory: Origins of Alien” premiered at Sundance before a nation-wide theatrical release in 2019. In 2020, he will be featured in a documentary on mythic landscapes and a series on great myths. Will has served as an editor and director for the Joseph Campbell Foundation as well as a creator and host for the Santa Barbara News-Press radio series, “Mythosophia.” He has presented and taught across continents and California for communities like Esalen, Pacifica Graduate Institute, the Philosophical Research Society and Ojai Foundation.

Vorris Nunley – Ph.D. Pennsylvania State University. Professor Nunley is interested in rhetorical and Critical theory, public pedagogies and composition, visual culture, neo-liberalism and  African American expressive culture.  His work addresses the intersections of rhetoric, space, and episteme (knowledge). Informed by work in literature, rhetoric (traditional/ethnic/gendered), cultural studies, and critical/feminist geography, Professor Nunley argues for the existence of a strand of African American rhetoric  and knowledge he refers to as African American Hush Harbor Rhetoric (AAHHR). Recently, his work engages neo-liberalism as a public pedagogy and how it commodifies, produces, and  mediates the construction and reception of  masculinity/femininity, Blackness,  the communal, and excess.  He is currently the Professor in Residence for the Honors Program.

Zaman Stanizai, Ph.D., Political Science, University of Southern California; M.A., Linguistics, University of Washington. Zaman has a doctorate in Political Science and completed his postgraduate studies in Islamic Mysticism (Sufism) and Islamic Gnosticism (Erfan). He has taught at Kabul University, the University of Southern California, the University of California, Los Angeles, and several community colleges in Southern California. His of areas of specialization are: Islamic Studies; Sufism; Theosophy; Political Philosophy;and Poetic Expression in Mystical Thought. He currently teaches: Islamic Traditions.

Ep45: Jeanette Hargreaves, M.Div. – On Anger and Healing

Ep45: Jeanette Hargreaves, M.Div. – On Anger and Healing

Powerful for both women and men. – Jeanette Hargreaves helps moms who lose their temper because she used to lose her temper every day. As a mom with a Master’s in Divinity, she founded tempercoaching.com to help other parents like her break the cycle. She works as a parenting coach, teaching private parenting classes over the phone. She also speaks with groups. And she has a new book, The Day I Threw Banana Bread and Almost Went to Jail: True Stories About How I Used to Lose My Temper (and How I Learned to Stop). You can buy it on Amazon or Barnes & Noble




As a mom with a Masters in Divinity, Jeanette Hargreaves founded tempercoaching.com to help parents like her break the yelling cycle. Now, in this tender and inspiring new book, Jeanette shares her most vulnerable stories about losing her temper with her own family and how she was treated as a child.

With heart-breaking honesty and laugh-out-loud truths, Jeanette walks step by step through the stories and the practical techniques that helped her break free. From dancing in the kitchen to yawning like a mama lion, Jeanette motivates and challenges you to join her on the journey to be the patient mom you want to be.

With deep strength and grace, The Day I Threw Banana Bread and Almost Went to Jail reveals how to put laughter, love and family values back at the center of your life.

website: https://jeanettehargreaves.com/



The New Compassionate Male – Emerging as the New Archetype


The New Compassionate Male is emerging as the new archetype.

Regardless of race, sexual orientation, nationality or religious tradition, I invite you to join the search

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