Telling a man that he “needs to go into his feminine side” is just about as effective as telling a woman that she “needs to go into her masculine side.” Talking about “integrating head and heart” gets closer to the essence of the general intent, but still falls short for many to grasp the nuance of the meaning.
In our search for the New Compassionate Male, Dennis Tardan, my producer, and I talk with many fascinating people. Bringing them together for small group conversations adds depth, breadth and richness to our search.
Life Skills Coach with a compassionate and counterintuitive approach to working with people and organizations, Author – Circles of Men: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Creating Men’s Groups, Founder – Men’s Fellowship: Circles of Men Project. As a life skills coach and business leader, Clay Boykin has developed a compassionate and counterintuitive approach to helping people and organizations find their purpose, direction, and path in the world. Clay’s life purpose is to help make the world a better place by helping raise compassion consciousness among men. He is the author of, Circles of Men: A Counter-Intuitive Approach to Creating Men’s Groups and has dedicated his next twenty years to make the world a better place by cultivating compassion consciousness among men. He Founded the Circles of Men Project in 2012 which has grown to a worldwide network. Clay facilitates retreats and workshops and has led them in both the U.S. and Kenya. Clay hosts both men and women on his podcast: In Search of the New Compassionate Male, which he launched early in 2020 in response to the COVID-19 crisis. Clay is a former United States Marine Corps officer and in 2007, after 38 years in the corporate world, a mystical experience sent Clay on a journey through his own dark night of the soul, later emerging to find his calling.
Clay shares his story of finding peace during the midst of a heart attack in the fall of 2007. He then found himself laid off and experienced his dark night of the soul for the next two years. He metaphorically reached the top but found himself wondering what it was all for and what to do next.
“The new compassionate male is emerging as a new archetype.” – Clay
What is the new compassionate male? Clay is on the search for the answer. The whole world is currently going through massive change and there is a lot of time for reflection within. It is something you can feel even if you can’t articulate it. He shares of tremendous stories of people who are also joining him in the search.
Watch the video called the My Mandala of Lifewe spoke about on this episode. Find out more about Clay on his website and check out his podcast, In Search of the New Compassionate Male.