Going Deeper

Going Deeper

As a child, I was different from other children. I could not learn the way others learned. I could not keep up in class or take notes the “normal” way. Often, other children often made fun of me and I withdrew socially. It was during this time that I was preyed upon and left with a burden of unresolved shame. I stopped trusting others and passed on many offers of support by classmates, teachers, family and potential mentors.  Counseling was not an option back then and I told myself that I could find my way on my own if I just worked harder. This was a mistake that would cost me down the road.

As a result, I lost confidence and grew frustrated. This, along with other life events caused me to withdraw, isolate and feel less than which led me into cycles of depression that I carried into adulthood. In spite of this, I persevered and became successful in business, but something was always gnawing at me. I was not on purpose. In my early fifties things came to a head when I developed severe health issues that led to a mystical experience. I later lost my job and almost lost my marriage.

As I climbed out of the hole I began realizing that many people have suffered by not asking for help soon enough or when they needed it most. I eventually found my purpose and meaning in life. I found my “why” and pledged to extend myself to others by sharing what I have learned along my journey. I would bring to them the tools and my counterintuitive approach that would enable them to help themselves. I have found my purpose and am doing what is in my heart to do. I am connecting compassionate men all over the globe, mentoring and coaching both women and men, and making a difference in the world. For this, I am grateful.

If you would like to meet, I offer a complementary 30-minute get acquainted ZOOM call, and working sessions beyond that; all aimed at exploring various tools to enable you find your path and guide you along your journey.


Because times are tough, I am offering 30% off my normal rates during the Pandemic.

Rates: Initial 30 min. consultation: No charge

Mentoring for individuals:
– 1 hour: $150
– 3 hours: $375

Mentoring for Business:
– 1/2 day: $700
– Day rate: $1,200

Private Group Mentoring: Available upon request

Mentoring for Non-Profit Organizations – Sliding scale
* All sessions are recorded, documented and sent to client for future reference.
* Multiple hours booked may be used over time.
* All sessions are presently conducted via ZOOM.
* To schedule time I may be contacted via email at: clay@clayboykin.com
* Payments made at time of scheduling via PayPal Link: paypal.me/clayboykin



ZOOM Link – Men’s Circle

ZOOM Link – Men’s Circle

ZOOM Link: us02web.zoom.us/j/775222845

Wherever you are in the world, I invite you to join us every Monday evening, 7pm-Central Standard Time, for a safe contemplative men’s circle conversation on the overarching theme of compassion.

You will find this to be a safe place to learn how to connect head and heart, a place where there is no judgment and no one is going to call you out or try to fix you. Try us “one time in a row.”

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My work with Clay and his process of mind mapping/mandala was a beautiful vision board. I have deep appreciation of his intuitive guidance that created this session. This process allowed me to really see where I can take action. I am deeply grateful to Clay and his work. – Jan Blevins

We called Clay Boykin for help in organizing our new foundation.  It is based on a complex subject not easily understood by people who are not spiritually oriented. Clay came to us and led us into a seemingly simple discussion about our subject matter, Kundalini, and what we wanted to accomplish with our new foundation. Finally Clay stood up before a white board and starting adding words and lines and then as we talked he made the lines come together and explained the meaning of each issue. We were stunned. Right before our eyes, Clay not only understood what we were about, but how to communicate it in simple and powerful terms. He also helped us organize a simple and usable business plan to get from where we were to where we want to be. Here’s the deal.  Clay is a Marketing Genius capable of taking a group of almost novices to a high level of marketing understanding in a brief amount of time and in a way that feels and seems totally empowering. – Chuck Robison – Director – Kundalini Research Foundation

Over the past eight years Clay has helped me tremendously, both personally and professionally, with his reframing and mind mapping expertise. His intuitive and creative approach has helped me gain a fresh and unique perspective with which to navigate through difficult and challenging life AND BUSINESS situations. The time he has spent mentoring along side me has been invaluable. I wholeheartedly recommend Clay for both individual and organizational coaching and consulting. – Kirby Hiscox

Clay is energetic, creative and results-focused. He’s a great colleague to have, because he views your issues as his issues, and will focus his energy and creativity towards helping you. A fine team player, he’d be an asset to any organization. – Brian Bedford

Clay is full of wisdom and authenticity in guiding and supporting the MFN, Men’s Fellowship Network. His dedication and passion in being conscious of what men (and women) seek to know under the broad umbrella of Male Spirituality is uncanny. Clay is compassionate and has his finger on the pulse of what is making a difference in this world. I am honored to know Clay and can honestly say he has changed my life in the most fantastic ways. – Martin Dowmen

Clay is a great conceptual thinker and planner that effectively incorporates fine detail in his plan. He is a superb motivator withan altruistic soul. I recommend him highly for all kinds of programs. – Rich Pendergraph

I was priviledged to work with Clay at Motorola on several business group and corporate initiatives. Clay is one of those unique individuals that combines incredible interpersonal skills, business acumen and a special gift of creativity to bring a variety of solutions to any problem or situation. He is truly an amazing individual and would bring value to any challenging environment. I highly recommend Clay. – Pete Pichette

Clay provides leadership that is transparent, inspiring, and totally open to fellow members of our men’s group. His spiritual grounding and continued self-exploration in exactly what a group of mature men welcome and embrace. Clay constantly searches for items of inspiration, self-exploration, and service to humanity. I respect his leadership and camaraderie. – Art Carter

Clay has taken certain of his “life lessons learned” and helpedcreate a powerful and profound men’s spirituality movement. I can give no higher recommendation as a spiritual leader, pilgrim, friend and brother. – Jim Jameson

Clay combines sensitivity to people and sensibility for situationsremarkably. Clay applies his creative, intuitive perceptions tomake complex problems simple and solvable. He folds into this a powerful consideration for people and for ever-strengthening their relationships. – Tim Wright

I have known Clay for over 15 years. I have worked with Clay on Community Projects as well as work projects. Clay is an extremely creative, organized, amiable and excellent communicator. Clay is an awesome addition to any organization he is a part of. Excellent leadership skills and always follows through. A wonderful person to work with. – Sylvia Stern

Clay is one of those rare individuals who can be focused, pragmatic, and innovative at the same time. I know of only a handful of people capable of doing such a good job at both the business end and the human side of work. He is a natural leader who infuses his environment and those around him with integrity, drive, and tenacity. – Cisalee Morris

Clay is terrific to work with. He understands the true meaning of leadership as it relates to mobilizing and energizing an organization. His creative and sometimes “off the wall” solutions to business challenges brings out the best in everyone and adds some fun to the work environment. Clay is an excellent communicator and was able to gain mind-share, build trust and engage our global sales force. This helped enable us add hundreds of millions of dollars in profitable sales to the company. – Mike Chaddock

Previous Engagements

Previous Engagements

2018 – Workshops & Engagements (Links)

2019 – Workshops & Engagements (Links)

2020 – Workshops & Engagements (Links)



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